Life has gotten so insanely different for me than it used to be! I think it has had so many drastic changes in it that I don’t even know if I could ever really be the person that I was 5 years ago let alone 2 years ago!
When I started doing all this work on myself it was for one purpose only. To get my relationship back. Definitely had tunnel vision going with that purpose as I usually do when I am passionate about something. I think it is an INFJ thing but could be just an OCD thing, I don’t entirely know but I do know the last 2 1/2 years of my life has been an absolute whirlwind of breakthroughs and really great things.
I can write for days and add 15 different stories into this one blog, so I will try really hard to stay on the subject at hand and keep my storytelling to a bare minimum. No promises though. Ha ha ha! INFJ’s have no short version of anything.
My point for writing today is to tell you all to just go for it. All those things that you dream of doing or being? Just do them! I know it sounds so simple and easy! Trust me I know it is not that simple and it’s definitely not easy. At least it wasn’t for me. But I think, for myself, the tunnel vision I had for fixing my relationship kept me going and focused on continuing to do the work needed, because I was willing to do WHATEVER work was needed to get my relationship back.
I was/am one of those that have huge dreams and plans and I want to do them ALL at once and miraculously change my life in just one day. Fortunately for me, had I not gone on this adventure I would have never learned that our lives just cannot change immediately and I have learned from my own experience, I just CANNOT change my life all in one day. I fail every time! I think it took this little journey I am on to finally make me realize that I couldn’t just change my life the exact moment I decided to. It’s actually taken 28 months and counting.
I say “and counting” because I’ve come to realize that our lives are ALWAYS changing. They really are, some of us want to stay the same and some of us want different lives for ourselves. But when we sit and think about it nothing ever stays the same. Nothing. So we can either choose to embrace the changes or we can choose to stay stuck in our little mental ruts that we get into because our lives aren’t going exactly the way we want them to.
I found this little quote a while ago and it really resonates with where I am currently in my life. “If you are always looking for yellow cars you will always see yellow cars.” I placed it below because it really is a great quote.
What do you focus on?
The horrible things the news shows us all day long? The negativity that is on social media all day long? The Toxic Tammy that you work with? The spouse that doesn’t listen to you? Do you focus on your spouse/partner leaving you? Spend some time thinking about this. Sit for an hour or longer and actually listen to the things going through your head, write them down. I challenge you to put them on paper and actually read them, look at them, be honest about it to yourself.
Life really isn’t as hard as we make it out to be. It really isn’t. Thoughts are an extremely powerful force and I promise you if you continuously think bad thoughts, the outcome will be just as you thought it would be. Now with that said….. the opposite is also true!! If we consistently think good thoughts and good outcomes we will actually get them. We really will. It may not happen immediately (this is the kicker) but it WILL happen, I want to promise you this outcome but even if I promise you good will happen to you, if you truly do not believe it will happen, it won’t and then you’ll call me a liar. If you continue to find faults in every single thing that is presented to you, in the rut is where you’ll stay stuck. I do promise that.
So what is keeping you from achieving your dreams? Money? Or your lack of effort to put in the work to get the money? The time you say you don’t have because you spend 5 hours a day on social media telling everyone how to live their lives? I’ve learned there is no magic button in life. There is no one that is going to save you and make your life better, you must do the work yourself. I can promise you the work is very hard and very, very worth it!!
I am no professional, nor am I any kind of expert. I just know my own story and what does and doesn’t work for me personally. If I can help someone else achieve their dreams then I’ve done what I came here to do. Rock on my pretties!
P.S. I got that relationship back and it’s even better. Why? We are doing the work. Both of us.